Borderline Personality Disorder Symptoms to Watch for in Teenagers (2023)

Borderline personality symptoms are confusing, frustrating, and hard for loved ones to understand. This is particularly the case for parents or caregivers dealing with teens who haveborderline personality disorder(BPD).

While we know a great deal about howborderline personality symptomslook in adults, we know much less about how the disorder presents in teens. In fact, there is still controversy over whether it is appropriate todiagnose teens with BPD.

Many experts argue that teens can have BPD, andadolescent BPDis now recognized as an official diagnosis.

Parents often have questions about borderline personality in adolescents. Some are worried that their teen is exhibiting the signs of borderline personality disorder (BPD), such as intense and frequent mood swings, impulsive behaviors, self-harm or difficulties in relationships. Others have BPD themselves and are worried that their kids will also have the disorder.

What Is Borderline Personality Disorder?

Borderline personality disorder is a serious mental health condition. It is characterized by instability in relationships, moods, self-image, and behaviors.

Many experts have argued that borderline personality should not be diagnosed in anyone younger than 18 since technically, their personality is not yet fully formed. In the most recent edition of the "Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders" (DSM-5), though, there is a provision that allows for the diagnosis of borderline personality before the age of 18.

While the provision technically allows for the diagnosis of BPD in children under 13, this is very rare.

Symptoms of BPD in Teenagers

While the symptoms of BPD as listed in the official DSM-5 diagnostic criteria are no different for teens and adults, some experts have suggested that there are differences in adolescent BPD symptoms.

Symptoms of borderline personality disorder include:

  • Depression
  • Frequent and intense changes in mood
  • Fear of abandonment or rejection
  • Difficulty maintaining relationships
  • Impulsive and risky behavior
  • Paranoia
  • Self-harm

Symptoms, such as instability in interpersonal relationships, impulsive behavior, chronic emptiness, and unstable sense of self, may look different in teens. It may also sometimes be difficult to distinguish between symptoms of BPD and normal teenage challenges.

Diagnosis of BPD in Teenagers

In order to diagnose BPD in teens, doctors and psychiatrists will look not just at the individual's behavior but also their motivations for those behaviors. For example, engaging in substance use is not necessarily a sign that a person has BPD. However, if they engage in such behavior in order to avoid problems or feelings, or to manage emotions, that might be considered a sign of the condition.

Research suggests that children as young as 11 are able to describe their behaviors and motivations enough for an accurate diagnosis.

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Prognosis of BPD in Teenagers

For adults with BPD, the symptoms of the condition typically gradually decline with age, particularly past the age of 40. The progression and outlook for teens with the condition are less clear, although appropriate treatment can significantly improve the management of symptoms.

According to a review published in 2015, the remission rate for adolescents could range from 50% to 65%, however, it's also possible that some symptoms could remain even though some teens no longer met the diagnostic criteria for BPD.

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Prevalence of BPD in Teenagers

A study published in 2014 suggested that rates of borderline personality in teens are slightly higher than in adults. This may be related to the fact that some teenagers display BPD in reaction to stressful events, but many are more likely to recover.

According to the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH), 1.4% of adults over the age of 18 are affected by borderline personality disorder.

Some studies suggest that the prevalence among teens is around 3%.

Risk Factors of BPD in Teenagers

The risk factors for borderline personality in adolescents are very similar to the risk factors in adults. In fact, many of the environmental risk factors for BPD occur during childhood. Some of the factors that may increase the risk of BPD include:

  • Brain differences: Research has found that people who have BPD often have changes in areas of the brain that are associated with the regulation of emotions and impulses.
  • Environmental factors: Childhood abuse and neglect, as well as parental separation or loss, have been linked to borderline personality in adults and teens.
  • Family history: Kids whose parents have serious mental health conditions (such as depression, substance abuse, or antisocial personality) are at greater risk for BPD.
  • Genetic influences: In addition, there are likely biological risk factors for BPD, such as a genetic component of the disorder that is inherited.

Prevention of BPD in Teenagers

If you are worried that your adolescent may be at risk for developing BPD based on either environmental risk factors (e.g., trauma exposure) or biological risk factors (e.g., a first-degree relative with the disorder), some experts believe that there are ways to modify the course of the condition.

Kids who experience externalizing disorders such as oppositional defiant disorder (ODD) and attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) appear to be more likely to develop BPD symptoms in adolescence. And the presence of depression in adolescence appears to predict BPD during adulthood.

This suggests that early detection and the use of specific therapeutic interventions to address those symptoms may be helpful in changing the course of the disorder. Thus, if you have concerns about your child's mental health, seek advice from a physician or mental health professional.

Treatment for BPD

While BPD is a serious and complex condition, there are effective treatments available that can help manage and reduce symptoms. Getting an accurate diagnosis and the use of appropriate treatments is important.

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Psychotherapy

Several types of psychotherapy including cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) and dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) may be effective with teens with borderline personality.

  • CBT can be useful for helping people learn to recognize and change negative thoughts that contribute to symptoms of the condition.
  • DBT helps people address destructive behaviors, learn new skills, and find ways of tolerating distress and difficult emotions.

DBT has also been adapted for use specifically with adolescents. Dialectical-behavioral therapy for adolescents (DBT-A) involves individual psychotherapy and family skills training.

One randomized control trial comparing DBT-A to psychodynamic therapy and CBT found that DBT-A was associated with increased reductions in depressive symptoms, borderline symptoms, self-harming behaviors, and suicidal ideation over the other treatments.

Medications

While there are no FDA-approved medications for BPD, there are medications that have been shown to reduce some of the symptoms.

  • Second-generation antipsychotics can be useful for managing suicide risk when used in conjunction with psychotherapy.
  • Anti-anxiety medications may also be prescribed on a short-term basis to help manage some symptoms. However, benzodiazepines should never be prescribed to treat BPD.
  • Medications such as Ritalin (methylphenidate) and selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) may also be prescribed to treat co-occurring ADHD and depression.
  • Melatonin may also be useful for treating insomnia, which is often present with BPD.

A Word From Verywell

Finding good treatment for an adult with BPD is hard, but given some of the controversial issues in diagnosing borderline personality in adolescents, finding a therapist for a teen with BPD is even harder. Fortunately, more and more therapists are being trained to treat teens with borderline personality. With treatment, remission and relief from symptoms is possible.

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FAQs

What does BPD look like in teenagers? ›

Signs of BPD in Teens

Distorted or dysfunctional self-image; a damaged identity. Inability to connect or feel empathy for others, intense narcissism. A persistent fear of abandonment and rejection. Volatile mood changes without clear cause that are lasting.

Can a 15 year old have borderline personality disorder? ›

In other words, about one in every ten adolescents in outpatient mental health treatment has borderline personality disorder, and nearly eight in ten adolescents seeking emergency services for suicidal behaviors have BPD.

At what age does BPD start showing? ›

According to the DSM-5, BPD can be diagnosed as early as at 12 years old if symptoms persist for at least one year. However, most diagnoses are made during late adolescence or early adulthood.

Can a 16 year old be diagnosed with BPD? ›

According to the DSM, borderline personality disorder can be diagnosed in adolescents or even children under age 18 as long as formal criteria are met. Symptoms have to be occurring for more than a year, and they must be “pervasive, persistent and unlikely to be limited to a particular developmental stage.”

How do I know if my daughter has BPD? ›

Fear of being abandoned and desperate attempts to avoid it. Paranoid thinking. Quickly changing from loving or admiring someone to disliking or criticizing them. Impulsive behavior, such as risky driving, unsafe sex, or alcohol and substance abuse.

How can I help my BPD teenager? ›

How To Help to Your Teen With BPD
  1. Unconditional love and support first and always. Teens with BPD want empathy, understanding, and compassion more than anything. ...
  2. Don't take behavior personally. ...
  3. Logical argumentation does not work.

What does borderline personality disorder look like in a child? ›

Young people with emerging borderline personality disorder may describe many of the following: feeling okay one moment and then feeling deeply despairing, angry, sad or anxious the next. emotions or moods that change very rapidly. feeling out of control of, or overwhelmed by, their emotions.

Can Camhs diagnose BPD? ›

Your GP will not be able to give you a diagnosis of BPD – only a special mental health professional can do this. But they can refer you to Child and Adolescent Mental Health Services (CAMHS) for an assessment and let you know what other support is available to you in your local area.

Can teenage trauma cause BPD? ›

Several studies have shown that a diagnosis of BPD is associated with child abuse and neglect more than any other personality disorders [7, 8], with a range between 30 and 90% in BPD patients [7, 9]. Adverse childhood experiences are also related to BPD symptom severity [9–11].

How can I help my daughter with borderline personality disorder? ›

How Can I help my Daughter with Borderline Personality Disorder?
  1. Learn as much as you can about BPD and DBT. ...
  2. Take Care of Yourself. ...
  3. Look Past the Borderline Personality Disorder Label. ...
  4. Focus on Validation & Communication. ...
  5. Learn to show love while holding boundaries. ...
  6. Get professional help.
16 Jun 2016

What triggers a person with borderline personality disorder? ›

Separations, disagreements, and rejections—real or perceived—are the most common triggers for symptoms. A person with BPD is highly sensitive to abandonment and being alone, which brings about intense feelings of anger, fear, suicidal thoughts and self-harm, and very impulsive decisions.

Are you born with BPD or does it develop? ›

But borderline personality disorder does not develop as a result of those traumas. Instead, it is a combination of genetic factors and childhood experiences (early environmental influences) that cause a person to develop borderline personality disorder.

Can BPD be diagnosed before 18? ›

As previously mentioned, DSM-5 permits the diagnosis of BPD in patients younger than 18 if symptoms persist for at least 1 year. Symptoms of BPD usually start prior to adulthood and the diagnosis can be made reliably.

How does BPD affect school? ›

While those with BPD are often highly intelligent and creative, symptoms can impair their learning and daily functioning in school. A student impacted by BPD may have a significantly more difficult time than a typical teenager managing relationships, academic pressures or anxiety.

How can you tell if someone has borderline personality disorder? ›

Wide mood swings lasting from a few hours to a few days, which can include intense happiness, irritability, shame or anxiety. Ongoing feelings of emptiness. Inappropriate, intense anger, such as frequently losing your temper, being sarcastic or bitter, or having physical fights.

What happens to borderlines as they age? ›

It is commonly believed that symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) lessen with age. For example, the DSM-IV states: “The impairment from the disorder and the risk of suicide are greatest in the young-adult years and gradually wane with advancing age” (1).

What is splitting BPD? ›

Splitting is a psychological mechanism which allows the person to tolerate difficult and overwhelming emotions by seeing someone as either good or bad, idealised or devalued. This makes it easier to manage the emotions that they are feeling, which on the surface seem to be contradictory.

Should I keep helping my BPD daughter? ›

However, contrary to popular mythology and outdated thinking, BPD does not have to be an immutable state. With the right approach and treatment, you can nurture a healthier relationship with your child while giving them invaluable support as they learn to navigate their illness and find true recovery.

What should people with BPD not do? ›

  • “You're so emotionally unstable.” ...
  • “Why can't you hold down a relationship?” ...
  • “You don't need to get so angry all the time.” ...
  • “Pull yourself together!” ...
  • “You're so stupid, you spend all of your money without thinking about the consequences.” ...
  • “It's like you have two completely different personalities.”
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Why do people with BPD lash out? ›

Lashing out in anger, a hallmark of BPD, often stems from one basic yet intense and overriding fear — the fear of being alone. People with borderline personality disorder often go into a panic or rage when they feel that they are being abandoned or are left alone, whether that abandonment is real or imagined.

Can BPD be diagnosed before 18? ›

As previously mentioned, DSM-5 permits the diagnosis of BPD in patients younger than 18 if symptoms persist for at least 1 year. Symptoms of BPD usually start prior to adulthood and the diagnosis can be made reliably.

Can Camhs diagnose BPD? ›

Your GP will not be able to give you a diagnosis of BPD – only a special mental health professional can do this. But they can refer you to Child and Adolescent Mental Health Services (CAMHS) for an assessment and let you know what other support is available to you in your local area.

Can teenage trauma cause BPD? ›

Several studies have shown that a diagnosis of BPD is associated with child abuse and neglect more than any other personality disorders [7, 8], with a range between 30 and 90% in BPD patients [7, 9]. Adverse childhood experiences are also related to BPD symptom severity [9–11].

What does borderline personality disorder look like in a child? ›

Young people with emerging borderline personality disorder may describe many of the following: feeling okay one moment and then feeling deeply despairing, angry, sad or anxious the next. emotions or moods that change very rapidly. feeling out of control of, or overwhelmed by, their emotions.

Can you show signs of BPD in childhood? ›

In fact, content analysis of DSM criteria by Geiger & Crick (2001) found five childhood indicators of BPD: hostile or paranoid worldview; impulsivity; intense, unstable or inappropriate emotion; excessively close relationships; and lack of sense of self.

How can I help my daughter with borderline personality disorder? ›

How Can I help my Daughter with Borderline Personality Disorder?
  1. Learn as much as you can about BPD and DBT. ...
  2. Take Care of Yourself. ...
  3. Look Past the Borderline Personality Disorder Label. ...
  4. Focus on Validation & Communication. ...
  5. Learn to show love while holding boundaries. ...
  6. Get professional help.
16 Jun 2016

What triggers a person with borderline personality disorder? ›

Separations, disagreements, and rejections—real or perceived—are the most common triggers for symptoms. A person with BPD is highly sensitive to abandonment and being alone, which brings about intense feelings of anger, fear, suicidal thoughts and self-harm, and very impulsive decisions.

What are the 9 symptoms of BPD? ›

The 9 symptoms of BPD
  • Fear of abandonment. People with BPD are often terrified of being abandoned or left alone. ...
  • Unstable relationships. ...
  • Unclear or shifting self-image. ...
  • Impulsive, self-destructive behaviors. ...
  • Self-harm. ...
  • Extreme emotional swings. ...
  • Chronic feelings of emptiness. ...
  • Explosive anger.

Is there a difference between BPD and EUPD? ›

Borderline personality disorder is also called emotionally unstable personality disorder (EUPD) and emotional intensity disorder (EID). In this factsheet, we call it BPD as this is still the most common term for the condition.

How can you tell if someone has borderline personality disorder? ›

Wide mood swings lasting from a few hours to a few days, which can include intense happiness, irritability, shame or anxiety. Ongoing feelings of emptiness. Inappropriate, intense anger, such as frequently losing your temper, being sarcastic or bitter, or having physical fights.

Are you born with BPD or does it develop? ›

But borderline personality disorder does not develop as a result of those traumas. Instead, it is a combination of genetic factors and childhood experiences (early environmental influences) that cause a person to develop borderline personality disorder.

Is BPD caused by chemical imbalance? ›

The exact causes of BPD are not yet known, but most experts believe that BPD develops as a result of biological, genetic, and environmental factors.

Can BPD be triggered by trauma? ›

It's possible that a combination of factors could be involved. Genetics might make you more vulnerable to developing BPD. Whereas stressful, difficult or traumatic life experiences could then trigger these vulnerabilities.

Whats the most psychologically damaging thing you can say to a child? ›

The dad continues: "The most psychologically damaging thing you can say to a child is a lie that they find out later was not true. If this pattern repeats enough times, it will be very psychologically damaging."

How does BPD affect school? ›

While those with BPD are often highly intelligent and creative, symptoms can impair their learning and daily functioning in school. A student impacted by BPD may have a significantly more difficult time than a typical teenager managing relationships, academic pressures or anxiety.

Are borderlines hypochondriacs? ›

Somatization, hypochondriasis, and hysteria have often been considered as associated features of the borderline personality disorder.

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